Collection: I Believe You Declaration Collection

Imagine giving a fellow adoptee in your life a gift that says, “I believe you, I see you, and I honor your journey.” This "I Believe You Declaration" design is more than just words—it’s a love letter to every adoptee who has ever felt unseen, unheard, or misunderstood.

Crafted with deep care and compassion by Pamela A. Karanova, it’s a piece of support and validation that many of us never received but so profoundly needed. This declaration would be perfect to give for holidays, birthdays, or any day from adoptee to adoptee, or it would be a wonderful gift for anyone who knows and loves an adoptee.

Let this declaration be a powerful reminder of their strength, truth, and purpose. Imagine it on their wall—a gentle voice that acknowledges their complex path and embraces their whole story, just as it is. As the holidays approach, consider gifting something that reaches the heart and speaks to the soul. Give this declaration to the adoptee in your life, and let them know they are seen, believed, and endlessly loved.

Dear Adoptee, I Believe You Declaration:

When you say the pain of being separated from your birth mother is a primal wound that never fully heals, I believe you.

When you say that being told to be grateful for your adoption is suffocating, invalidating the immense loss you've endured, I believe you.

When the world tells you that you were "chosen," but all you feel is abandonment and rejection, I believe you.

When you look in the mirror and feel like a stranger is looking back, not knowing where you come from, I believe you.

When you speak of the trauma of not having access to your original birth certificate, as if your identity is locked away, I believe you.

When you say that the narrative of being "lucky" ignores the deep, complex grief that weighs on your heart, I believe you.

When others diminish your feelings, telling you that adoption is beautiful while ignoring your pain, I believe you.

When you say you've been fighting for peace and healing, yet the world doesn't listen, I believe you.

When the lack of medical history leaves you vulnerable and scared, with no way to protect yourself, I believe you.

When you say that no amount of love or support can erase the loss of your first family, I believe you.

When you express that attachment isn't guaranteed and that the bond with your adoptive family may never fully form, I believe you.

When the pain of being labeled as "angry" for expressing your truth is overwhelming, I believe you.

When you feel like a "throwaway," followed by a cloud of badness that haunts you, I believe you.

When you speak of the rage, the internal war, the feelings of not belonging anywhere, I believe you.

When you say that healing isn't a one-size-fits-all journey and roadblocks appear every step of the way, I believe you.

When others dismiss your trauma, telling you to just "move on" or "let it go," I believe you.

When you cry out for adoptee-competent therapists who truly understand your experience, I believe you.

When you share that adoption begins with multilayered, complex loss, and until that's acknowledged, you cannot truly heal, I believe you.

When the Troubled Teen Industry swallows adoptees whole, and no one speaks up for those overpopulated in mental health facilities, jails, and prisons, I believe you.

When you say that adoption trauma and relinquishment trauma are two distinct, painful experiences, I believe you.

When you say you need the world to be a heart with ears, but all you've gotten is being gaslit, I believe you.

When the narrative of "choosing" self-love feels impossible because of the rejection you've endured, I believe you.

When others dismiss your struggles with self-love, when it feels like you're fighting against a force that began before you were even born, I believe you.

When you reveal that your pain is layered and complex and that no magic wand will fix it, I believe you.

When you share that adoption is rooted in secrets, corruption, and the stripping away of your identity, I believe you.

When you speak of the unimaginable heartbreak and isolation that comes with being an adoptee, I believe you.

I believe in the depth of your pain, the complexity of your journey, and your right to share your truth. You deserve to be heard, supported, and validated in ways the world has yet to give you.

And I will continue to believe you, Always